Have an affair with someone who is single.
Pros
• They can be available to your limited schedule and meet when you’re available.
Cons
• They may want you to leave your partner spouse.
• They may cause issues for your marriage, such as confront your spouse, show up at your home, or show up at you work place.
• They can get frustrated at your limited schedule.
• You can become jealous if they are dating other people.

If you decide to have an affair with someone who is single, you need to lay boundaries, explain to them what is expected of them, and that you are not planning to leave your partner or spouse.

Have an affair with someone who is married.
Pros
• They are not wanting a serious relationship, and do not want to leave their partner or spouse.
• They will be just as discreet as you want to be.
Cons
• Times when you can meet up are limited, since both of you are married it may take weeks before you two can have some discreet time together.

We see it all the time during the day at local gyms, dozens of insecure housewife’s working hard to maintain their bodies for husbands that do not appreciate them. I have a membership to 24 Hour Fitness and I visit their locations all over the city to meet new ladies.

Good advice, but don’t try this at your local gym where everyone already knows you.

But in order to be successful in picking up, dating, and seducing married women, you need to know a few things:

1. When you date a married woman, you have to let her call the shots. She has a home she needs to be in, she has a husband she needs to see and children to take care of. Unless you want her to break her affair with you, you need to let her determine when to meet you.

2. Make sure to give her a good time – A married woman starts an affair to have hot sex. Make sure to give her extra attention in bed. Put her pleasure first.

3. Don’t get touchy-feely with your married woman – Married women already have one man to take care of: their husband. She doesn’t want to get to know you too well or to listen to your problems. Keep your relationship on a physical level or she’ll kick you to the curb.

4. Keep your mouth shut about the affair – Don’t start blabbing to your friends about the hot married woman you’re seeing. Word gets around. There’s no stopping it. You have to be totally discrete.

5. Don’t tell her about other women you’re seeing unless she asks you directly. Simply because she doesn’t want a relationship with you doesn’t mean she wants to hear about other adventures you may have.

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One word of advice, do not touch, kiss, cuddle, or do anything in front of the children,  you do not want your child telling someone what they saw.

My friend has been having an affair with his mistress for over half year. She repeatedly asked him to leave his wife for her, but despite all the promises he made, he wouldn’t leave his wife. Well his mistress took it upon herself to speed up the process of a divorce. When his wife was doing the laundry, she discovered a pair of ladies lingerie in with the cloths that wasn’t hers! His mistress who once in awhile came over to the home decided to remove one of her garments in place it under some cloth in the laundry before she left the home one day.

1. - Never bring your lover to your home.
2. - Never go to your lover’s home (unless they are completely single and free from the ties of marriage and/or a serious relationship.) If they get caught by their significant other, chances are your spouse will also find out.
3. - Never call your new companion from your home phone and/or your cell phone (if your spouse has access to your phone record.)
4. - Never give your new friend your home phone number.
5. - Keep a low profile when you are out with your lover. You would be surprised how many people know you and/or your spouse, who unbeknownst to you may see you lavishing inappropriate attention on your new companion in public.
6. – Do your best to meet with your lover out of town – somewhere far enough away from home that you do not know people and people do not know you.
7. - Try to set up a regular schedule of “dates” with your lover. If your spouse expects you to be out of town for business overnight every Wednesday, he/she will not suspect anything when you maintain this schedule and include your new friend in your overnight stays.
8. – Do not become too confident in your ability to deceive your spouse. If you become too sure of yourself, you will get sloppy and you may get caught.
9. - Do not tell everyone you know about your illicit trysts. You should trust very few, if any, friends with your secret.
10. - Do not make promises you cannot keep. Nothing will prompt your lover to reveal your affair to your spouse quicker than your failure to fulfill some insincere commitment to end your marriage for him or her.

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2. Maintain eye contact – Most guys try to catch women’s eyes just to shift them away the moment they achieve contact. One of the best ways to start a rapport with women and to see what their initial reaction is to you is to catch and maintain eye contact even if that makes you feel a little self-conscious. Once you do get her eye, give her a small, wry smile. Too big a smile and you’ll look like an enthusiastic jerk, so keep it small and mysterious.

3. Financial potential – Women like powerful and wealthy men, it’s no secret, but that doesn’t mean you can’t feed on that even if you’re totally broke. To make a woman like you, all you need to do is to make her think that you have a potential to make money and her imagination will finish the job. For instance, you can be a waiter, but also have a startup in the works. Or you can be a poor student of law, or a wealthy lawyer in a few years. You see what I mean: you need to paint the right picture.

Do these 3 things and more women will love you more.

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I love my wife and have no intentions of leaving her, but sex was just boring. One night I located my old college girlfriend I haven’t heard from in over five years on facebook. After some messages back and forth, I learned she was married and in the same situation as me. The messages turned sexual very quickly and we talked about our fling at college and how much fun we had together. The following week we met up at a hotel room downtown during my lunch break. It was just what we both needed.

They claim that having sex with others is purely “for fun” and in no way diminishes the relationship they have with their spouse.

So where in such a relationship are the secrets that only two can share? Doesn’t having “interchangeable” sex partners kind of take the personal intimacy and romance right out of the bedroom?

Not according to swingers. They maintain that swinging allows them to explore their sexual boundaries together while strengthening their mutual love and respect for each other.

So, if you and your spouse are considering crossing over from fantasy to reality, here are the top 10 reasons to become swingers.

1. Because you both want to experience sex with other people but do not want the guilt of “cheating”.
2. To experiment and learn new techniques that new sex partners can offer.
3. To fulfill your mutual fantasies.
4. To satisfy your voyeuristic tendencies.
5. To explore your bi-sexual curiosities.
6. Have group sex in a safe and controlled environment whether it be at a private “house party” or at a swingers club.
7. To enjoy multiple partner sex with like minded people without fear of judgment.
8. To make new friends and experience and exciting “alternate lifestyle”.
9. To experience those long lost, intoxicating feelings of “lust” and rejuvenate your boring and routine sex life.
10. To share in a totally uninhibited and enjoyable “release” from the stress of everyday life that includes your partner.